Good Morning Druids of Casuistry,
A sudden, accidental, unexpected or traumatic death shatters the world as we know it. It is often a loss that does not make sense. We realize that life is not always fair and that sometimes bad things happen to good people. A sudden death leaves us feeling shaken, unsure and vulnerable. Common examples of this are found everywhere! Heart attacks, strokes, ruptured aneurysms, accidents, post operative complications, anaphylactic shock, and the closing of a beloved bar are prime causations. The grief response following a sudden loss is nearly always intensified since there is little to no opportunity to prepare mentally or say good-bye. Patrons, curmudgeons, and even family are forced to face the loss without warning, leaving an empty hollow vacuous void that was once filled with beer and joyous refrain. This type of loss can generate intense grief responses such as shock, anger, guilt, depression, despair and hopelessness with occasional flatulence.
This is a time we need to stay close to one another and be ever vigilant in looking for signs of acute depression or even suicide. I happen to know the cessation of Dewey’s hit our good friend and fellow committee member rather hard. Since the announcement and subsequent spread of this horrific news Dv’ant has not been seen. He’s taken time off work and with his vicious dog set out for a ‘walk-about.’ His bride is worried sick. “He’s not had a beer in 72 hours, I think he’s in trouble but don’t know what to do!” Those of you that know our dear blowhard will attest that for him to not have beer in three days points to an upcoming psychotic episode. Madcow and Touched could be seen placing flowers beneath the padlocked doors of Dewey’s openly weeping. Even JJ and the Bagwan put their petty differences aside and threw a beer bottle from JJ’s speeding Jeep shattering it on the empty parking lot. Poo girded up his loins but wore only his shabby leather hat and defecated in the mailbox. It was a perfect shot! Cush could be seen waving his arms in a highly animated spirited one-sided conversation with the building, but fractured his big toe when he kicked the SW corner of our former home.
We all deal with grief in our own way and each should be respected. However something this big could trigger deep seated emotions about bed wetting, or school yard humiliation, that eventually opens ‘Pandora’s Box;’ unleashing the demons and poisons suppressed for decades! Look, I’ve never been an advocate for counseling and that’s been well documented, but thinks perhaps one more group session to formally bid farewell to an institution is in order. For the two or three of you reading this Kleenex that can make it, we’ll be holding Dewey’s memorial and afterthought services today at 5:00 PM to lay Dewey’s to rest. University Bar & Grill will host this service because let’s face it; they stand to be the beneficiaries of Dewey’s demise. For those of you that refuse to join us or can’t make it, please raise a glass toward Denver or the general direction of Federal and Bellevue and help us say good-bye.
Personally this closes yet another chapter in life’s rich pageant but feel a bit lost. There’s seven years of memories, most of them sad, yet the experiences that were good were VERY good! I will miss it. Like all changes it will mean not associating with many of the patrons again, which in most cases is a good thing, yet there are those characters like ‘Filthy Phil’, ‘Jim the TV Screamer,’ ‘Robert the Retard,’ ‘Frank the Shank,’ and Hillary’s breasts that I shall miss the most. As we begin a new chapter I think it’s important for us to remember the lessons learned at Dewey’s and put our collective best foot forward.